Even the happy kind. They make you too happy, and then when reality sinks in, you become too miserable. If you're already too miserable, then anything that happens just makes you either too "fine" with the way things are, or more too miserable.
Basically, everything is in the extreme. Black or white. Left or right.
But we all know that there's a few hundred shades of grey in between black and white. And that there's a lot many places in between the left and right. That's real life. Not the extremes, but the few million shades of everything.
So, STOP over reacting!! Sure, you can do the whole crying- your- eyes- out- thing or the jumping- on- the- bed thing, just don't drive yourself to the jumping- off anything that is at your height or more above the ground. Or driving into stuff.
Once you're done with screaming into the pillow, or pulling your hair or pulling some one else s hair- sit down and think rationally. Set aside the negative energy and focus on how and why whatever has happened REALLY affects you and what you can do about it.
So what if the other person doesn't love you anymore? Think about it- did you really love him? Or were you just in love with being in love? Are you really ok with him digging his nose and tasting the "booty" in public? Are you really ok with the way his trousers are just on the verge of giving in to gravity?
Alternatively, are you ok with all the bitching she does? Do you really want someone who cries over a broken nail in your life?
So what if you've flunked a paper? So what if you can't cook?- if what you're upset about is not being able to cook. So what if you embarrassed yourself in public- only people who can laugh at themselves are actually secure about who the are, what they stand for.
You get the idea.
Shake yourself for me. You're only 20 odd something! You've got your entire life ahead of you. It's not the end of the world! Chill dude.
(And those of you who know me, knows how much it takes to actually get that yankee phrase out of me)
I'm not saying whatever you'd have done was right or wrong. Nor am I trying to belittle your pain or suffering. All I'm saying is, no matter how bad it might have seemed then- YOU can get over it. Make things right, and move on. You just need to set the emotions aside, and think with a clear head. And then do the "right" thing. Just remember- it's not the end, until it's the end you want it to be.
Be good to yourselves,
All my love.
Lovely post.. "only people who can laugh at themselves are actually secure about who they are" .. Very very true.. Btw, is there any hidden reason for this sudden burst of 'emotions'..?
Thank you. You're very kind.
Nope, no "hidden reason"- I'm just well rested after a 15 hour sleep to make up for the 3 days that I didn't sleep at all.
By the by, you'll help on the cat thing?
SG.
Dear SG,
Nice post...Its true that one should forget the pain ..forgive at times... and move ahead in life ... but i guess most of us don't do that!! Most of us tend to over react!! But i guess its not worth crying over things which can't be undone...
I like your comment...
"Shake yourself for me. You're only 20 odd something! You've got your entire life ahead of you. It's not the end of the world! Chill dude."
hahaha.. but there can be people above 20.. hahaha.. what would you tell them!! hahaha joking!!!
Hey is there something that's troubling you?
Anyways, how did ur exams go? I'm sure u must have done well.
My best wishes r wid u!
Love n cheers
eally ok with the way his trousers are just on the verge of giving in to gravity?
i swear it pk, this is the best i've heard from you, it even beats that CD thing. you don't remember, but ya...
Post is nothing new to me ;)
@Ira: Thank you. I'm glad you liked it. Forgiving another person is always easier than forgiving yourself. I'm not asking you to forgive- and- forget then and there. All I'm asking for is that you give yourself the time and chance to let it not have power on you anymore.
And no, nothing is bothering me. Or nothing new that is. Thank you for asking though.
Exams are going on. It's a long story. And a sad one. Some other time- when I want to spread the misery, maybe.
:)
@Sis: Thanks. I like it too. And CD thing? Remind me-?
Thanks for dropping by you guys, appreciate it. Really.
All my love.
been a long time since i've read some 'quintessential wisdom' from the agony aunt....and by jove does it sound good!
hope you're doing well with all the non-sense that we students face in everyday life.
take care
Thankus!!
I'm not doing great, I have exams going on. Sigh.
Thanks for dropping by,
All my love.
yelo! How you been? Been a loooong time!!
Am almost back on my dead blog (http://dreamvendor.blogspot.com)!!
_DreamVendor
Hmm... I don't think I have any advice left to give you next time you vent to me :). You've said everything.
Koze
Oh, and read the Goriest instalment of The Gorie Storie yet. Part 11 Of 0 on Kaushik's Magical World Of Nonsense.
And leave comments.
Good girl.
Kaushik
HI sweetie. Totally agree. Cept tht u shud do the extreme things in mediocre and then slip into mediocrity. If you kno wht I mean.
ANd the love issue annoys me. Plain freakin annoys me the way peepal over react abt it. So ditto there too.
I wanna kno the CD thing too. And yeah, LOL on the trousers bit. And the nail thing.
Ok, gotta run. Seeya the next tym am not in motion.
Toodles. *Hugs*
Sometimes it hurts.. Real bad! Just to think. Sometimes you dont wanna get over it! You want the pain coz its the only thing u believe is left! Only a person hit by a truck would know what it feels like to get hit by a truck.
This is y i have no ambition in life.. Coz if u want something real bad and u dont get it it fucks u up! So i try not to expect or want anything in particular 4 the future. Sometimes even i fuck up on that! (I actually studied 4 my exams.. wth is happening to me...)
Optimistic post. Anyway there is no such thing as an optimist.. There r only pessimists and yet to become pessimists. :D
Yours darkly in the light
Dark Messiah
@dv: It has been! I've been extremely busy looking busy. Hope alls well.
@Koze: Thank you. I think.
@Koze: I've read it. I like it muchly. Will not get insulted by leaving comments though.
@triya: I do! I do! And I'd like to know about the CD thing too.
'am glad you liked it. And hope alls well.
@Dark: For you, my current(the post that will come after I've written this).
Thanks for dropping by you guys,
All my love.