Sometimes "it" may not be something as stupid as losing a boyfriend or girlfriend or a crush or getting a boyfriend or girlfriend. At times it hurts real bad. And you try to hold on to it, because pain is the only emotion you can actually feel.
I've been down this path before, and I'm going down it again. So as to make my point clear.
As humans, we are very very inclined to actually enjoying the pain. More than we realize. It might sound sadistic but fact is- we're all guilty about something or the other. It could be having too much, or giving too little. Or having enough and still wanting more. Or anything in between too. Bottom line- we're guilty. The quantity makes the difference.
So, when the pain comes along- we enjoy it. When I say enjoy I don't mean you go out and party or... well, any of the things that you associate with the "happy" enjoying. What I mean when I say we enjoy it is that some where we believe we deserve it. It acts like a balm. It's a very neutral and numb feeling. And that's what makes it attractive.
Initially, it's best to just give in to it. Do the whole go- with- the- flow thing. Time, though, makes the pain pass. Or it's affect on you pass, at least. At this juncture- you can either think of ways to hold onto this state of numbness or let it go and embrace life and start living again.
This is when you need to go re- read my previous post- we all mess up. Sometimes things are just messed up. Sometimes things mess up real bad. But there is NOTHING, and I mean nothing that is so bad that it can't be corrected. No mistake that can't be forgiven.
Say, for example, at the very extreme, you killed someone. You're still alive aren't you? You're alive for a purpose- even if that purpose is to pay for your deeds and make things right. You could pay by crying about the fact that you did do what you did do or didn't do what you didn't do or get out there and do something about what you did do or didn't do that you shouldn't have done or should have done.
The key is to make the payment positive. And with that, I rest my case.
-Courtesy a Digital Signal Processing exam.
Its exactly what helps u survive! Some people take longer than others. it all depends on ur current state of life! Some people never recover even though they convince themselves that they fell all better bout it!
I hate too sound too cherry and optimistic, but your life is exactly what you make it.
You're here for a reason, you have a purpose. Fulfill it.
SG.
And what is my purpose? Thats the whole point.. People make purposes because they need to block out the one fact!
Life has no purpose! Its empty and devoid so ppl make meanings and purpose for themselves.. Agent smith in the matrix is one of the clearest thinkers i have seen. :D
I agree life is what u make of it but some shit is beyond our control.. Would u say that to some1 who's angry because he was sexually abused as a child? If u would u have no right to say its all right let it go and shit.. Like i said only some1 whos been hit by a truck knows what it feels like to get hit by a truck.
heylo.. :) ..
me back.. after ages and ages and ages,, and wat a firs post to read on my way back :) .. brilliant as ever.. and u should seriously go into the motivational business :).. i felt much better after reading that.. hehe... not that i have anythn to complain.. but the fact that i agree with most of wat u were saying is simply worth smiling about :) .. good job i say :) .. oh yes .. and u be ece student as well :D :D .. hi5 :) ..
Hmm.
Mistakes made often cannot be reversed, extreme case of killing someone.. nothing.. i repeat nothing can replace human life, you can never make up for some things, forget killing some one.. there are much worse things that can be done to a person and that hits you back in the head like a bullet.
I could have quoted triya in this and said "hmmm" ( :P ) but thats not how it works :D everything happens for a reason and if you agree with me on this, then lookin at your way of lookin at things, everything is the same.. all too confusing, must clear head before posting again next time :D
And thats the way the cookie crumbles
Rythwin
@dark: Will have get back to you- I'm seriously sleep deprived with all this travelling I've been doing.
But one thing I will say- I have been hit by this "truck"- so I know what I'm talking about. Also, I know who've been hit by bigger things and still make things right. Sorry to burst your bubble- but there are people who have the strength to go back and face what they did wrong.
@vishal: thankus. and seriously, long time!! And what ece? I'm not a geek!!!
@triya: Lol. Thanks.
@Ry: I'm not saying that human life can be replaced or that you haven't done something hideous by killing/abusing/whatever someone. All I'm saying is, you're here. You've realized you've wronged someone. DO SOMETHING about it! And DO SOMETHING POSITIVE about it!!
It's better than sitting around killing yourself over having done something "wrong" and not doing anything at all ever again. Fact is- this re payment I'm talking about is not easy. And who wants to do something that's not easy eh?
And THAT's the way the cookie crumbles. By the by, I need to clear my head or you?
Thanks for dropping by you guys,
All my love.
well i assumed thaat the digital signal processing meant u were ece :P.. and im not a nerd :) .. thats a misconception im doing my best to change.. never mind about that now.. walk on ! :)
I dont understand... Even I've written my DSP exam, but my brain never crossed the threshold of philosophical outbursts... :D
Btw, how was ur CAT..? Mail me if you can.. :)
@vishal: You can try. And no, not ece.
@Sirpy: Lol. You must be the nerd types too then. I told you, i'll be writing it next year. And to mail you, i'd need an e-mail id!!
Thanks for dropping by you guys,
All my love.
bigger truck? Wat bigger truck? Its not a comparison! For some people their bigges truck is failing their exams! To me thats not even a roller skate! No such thing as a bigger truck! Im not talking about me here! Im saying in general about ppl hit by trucks! If it didnt hurt it wasnt a truck that hit u! Simple! I know people who have been hit by very very big trucks and who are still optimistic. And i know a guy who comitted suicide for somethin as small as failing his exam! All im saying is that u cant tell people how to react! They have to bear their own burdens! and im too lazy to sign in so...
Arrey, I know that. And I'm not doing that. Or at least not what I intended to do. I think it was something like the leading a horse to the water, but not being able to make him drink it thing.
Too tired, will argue when I've gathered my thoughts and had the chance to breathe.
All my love.
It was "painfully" amusing to read this: 'you did do what you did do or didn't do what you didn't do or get out there and do something about what you did do or didn't do that you shouldn't have done or should have done.'
May be your post wasn't meant to be amusing, but the way you tried to make your point there certainly brought a smile to my face
The Gorie Storie Part 12 Of 0 is on my blog. Read it please. It's the last part of The Gorie Storie I'll be posting.
Kaushik