I looked up the dictionary one day, to find out what exactly the word FRIEND stands for. Because each day brought about a new feeling I had towards these 'friends' of mine... I found myself thanking the Lord for having blessed me with them and cursing my luck the very same day for having ended up with such people...The dictionary did nothing to clear my head and offered me a number of meanings...
So, I decided that I had to find out for myself, what the word really meant. Oh! And I did. First I found there were 'friends' who came up to you and sweet talked you when they wanted something done from you. What I also found was that over a period of time and such encounters, even when you became intelligent enough to spot such people, you ended up doing these small favors for them... Out of pity. And that was the time I vowed never to be such a friend, no matter what. I hope I have succeeded.
Then I came across the 'friends' who helped other people out, because, they were gifted with things the others didn't have. It could be anything.. Being a friend to the blind, since you were gifted with eyesight... Or just being there to lend an ear to some old person who was troubled, since you were gifted and had people who listened to you ( even if they only pretended to listen.. Yeah thanx guys! :D) .
And then come the people whose friendship...Is most confusing. And most needed. And most wanted. This was the friend who let you dot his/her i's and cross his t's. This was a friend to whom I could tell my worst fears to and count on to drive them away. I could actually sit with this friend and build castles in the air, and believe that one day they would turn real.
This friendship provided you with shelter when you didn't want to face worldly lies and when you were tired of loving and caring. Here, was somewhere you could hide from pain and gather up the courage to face it. Because even though this friend had warned you of the pain, instead of a " I told you so" you found him ready to stand by you while you fought your wars. THIS was one place where you were sure to be heard...
...And slowly it taught you that it was OK to screw up, and OK to complain all day long... And you learned that it was OK to love, and not be loved back.. that it was OK to feel like crap... where you also learnt that when you thought things couldn't get worse.. They did!!
You also found that this one person had all the patience and faith in you.
I found trust. And I found love. Here was someone who could and always did manage to help me find back my faith in this human race.
This friend, much to my despair at that time, also brought with him/her the sternest voice that made you do things that you were supposed to do no matter what, 'cuz they were good for you. Hmph. I also found loads of fights and arguments, until we decided that whoever won the toss was correct. Not to forget the times when I had to be the 'noble' one and take on the blame for pulling out flowers from the garden, for being the one to dare another friend to kiss Ms. Prissy, and leaving a small amount of lunch on the teacher's chair ( of course it was a mistake! a deliberate one though..! hehe..),to count a few.
The endless consoling over lost boy-friend's and later listening to constant jabbber about the then latest hunk... Smiling and always being there to tell people that whatever happenened, happenened for a reason...was, i'm begining to realise, a small price to pay.
So, though it might look like I couldn't possibly have reached a conclusion as to what the word really means... I DID!!!
It means the world.
It stand for what you are, who you are and what makes you. It has the power to make you and break you. And that this was one thing that lasted forever. Yep, it DID. No circumstance and no amount of time, not even the 7 oceans can cause it to weaken.
And, here's thanking each and everyone of you.. yeah Kaushik EVEN you :D... for being there for me always,and for giving me the most...lemme say..most unforgettable days of my life... More than that I hope I have never let any of you down.. Ever.. So, here' wishing all friends, old and new,with loads of love, a VERY VERY HAPPY FRIENDSHIP's DAY (7th Aug).
Waiter, one "eye-rolling smiley" please!
and to think i was thanking you...
waiter, one "eye-rolling smiley" here too...!!!
~GhostSTalker
You guys are by far the most amusing bunch .. hee hee.
Well,
Speaking of friends.. i got a couple who i think can actually rate up there.
We've been friends for 17years now. ya .. that's right~
Best thing ... we dont have to be keeping in touch ... we can refuse to do favours... but yet we are still on one bond, that wont break for anything.
even if we meet after 6 months, i see the person i left 6months back, the same... he might have changed to the world...but not to me... WE ARE The SAME always.. we have been so for so many years. This is how its been and this is how it will be.
I got a coupla' friends like that.
:)
And i am thankful.
This is what friendship to me is.
~GhostSTalker~FeRa~
o.0~@!
Btw .. I would love to have more of those type of friends.. it makes life a lot easier ... basically what friends are for.
Making your life as easy and enjoyable and lovely as possible with no effort from both sides.
Good Luck to u all finding some ppl like that.
~FeRa
I think friendship day is the most vomitty idea ever. It's as vomitty as Valentine's day.
Why do you need a day to be friends or recognise them? Friends, as you have so clearly pointed out, are always there for you, and unlike things like teacher's day and stuff, friendship day is mutual unless a friend of yours doesn't have a friend who is you.... aargh that didn't come out right.
Anyway, in my opinion, despite all the nice things that PK has said abotu friendship, I think that friendship day is a very vomitty concept.
Kaushik
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ok... who said it ain't vomitty?
but since the day exists... you might as well put it to good use..!
Are u ok? u haven't made one horrible jab at me today?
I'm taking it easy on you...today
..aah 'cuz i mentioned u in my post??
I shud do it more often... :D
In the mean time.. thank God for small mercies :d
by the by did u chk out the last comment in the previous post??
I did see the last comment on the previous post... from this I can only infer that ghoststalker is mental.
Kaushik
y aren't u online on msn??
meaning??