(umm... the first line is a question... the second is a thought or a situation... there's Nick-my best friend, one Tina-his love who hates for some reason and me-Me is ME...!!!)
What do you do with a best friend(Nick) who has been in love with a person(Tina) for 4 years, other than to tell him to go for it?
So, what if she's the reason why you distrusted me(me!!) once?
What do you do when Tina says she can't go out with Nick because she cannot trust Nick and me together, other than tell Nick you'll get out of the way?
Damn! Nick deserves a chance with Tina doesn't he? Friends come and go... yeah girls come and go too, but what kind of a person would I be if because of me he lost a chance with a girl who he's loved for 4 years and more just because of me?
What do you do when Tina makes your best friend,Nick, wag his tail to her every command, other than to tell him to open his eyes?
Nick knows what Tina's doing... Tina just wants to increase the count of guys that pay attention to her. Nick knows it.
What do you do when Nick takes out all his anger with Tina on you and calls you the lowest of things, and says "Who are you to say anything,huh?... look who you fell in love with... see how happy he is with his new girl friend "...other than listen?
Nick knows he's just saying things and that they don't mean a thing. Nick knows he's being played at by Tina.
What do you say to Nick when he decides to STOP feeling for Tina, no matter what... other than, "Look mister, you can't decide what to feel and when to feel and who to feel it for... So, stop fooling yourself and just go with the flow."
Nick's tried a million times to make himself not to feel, but he won't admit that it doesn't work.
What do you do when Nick starts thinking that no one takes him seriously and that no one respects him (taking hints from the way Tina's been treating him)other than, kick him on his shins and tell him that a person has to respect himself before he/she can expect others to respect him back... that if you think no one's listening to you, make an effort to listen to them and then try making them see what you have to say...
Nick fights with his dad at home over petty things and then justifies them with " He doesn't respect me. I will no be treated like shit." And he shuts up when I tell him that the only person who treats him like shit is TINA.
What do you do when Nick decides "Enough is enough. I'm not going to care. I don't believe in love anymore. It jst doesn't exit. Im going to change myself."
...other than tell him... "Look idiot. Just because SHE (Tina) doesn't care for you or doesn't love you back, doesn't mean no one else does. It doesn't mean you change into a cold hearted dog."
Nick only nods his head. He's made up his mind. No one's going to play around with him. He doesn't care about anyone anymmore. Love is crap. It doesn't exist.
What do you do when he sends you a msg that reads " Thank you for trying to stop me. I dint knw you cared this much. But you are just one person, you're not the world."
He doesn't want to do it... but he will because he thinks he's not good enough.
What do you do when Nick says "Stop messaging me. You are worse than HER. I don't need you anymore. Msg me only when you've stopped cribbing." or "Aha! So you are using whatever i've said to you to attract other people's attention, glad to be of service. Btw no one will listen to you because they don't give a damn about what you have to say."
I dint know what to say... so, I just told him.... that try as he may, I am not TINA, and don't ever want to be. "I am me. You don't need me, fine. SAY whatever you want to to hurt me. Do whatever you want. And when you get tired....I'm still going to be here..."
Uyo full feel....if I ever become the director of an emotional, senty drama, I won;t even need to think of a script...ahaha....joking....byebyebye....
u had better be joking.... did i do right or wrong??
I strongly recommend you modify this post and give the people at least fake names. It's very hard to follow what you're saying when you keep saying him and her and me and them and all that...
Kaushik
Love hurts, but that's the way it goes.. Traditional priorities do not balance a partner with a best friend.
The "partner" always gets the nod ahead! :-)
Good luck in getting better soon..
hell yeah i know how that feelS!!...
ninju.... teenage wasteland inc.
@vinesh: im sorry but im blinking *blush*.... if given a choice between a guy i love and my best friend, i'd chose my best friend... 'cuz any guy who expects me to break a friendship for "love" isn't worth me...im still blinking... thanx for visting!
@ oi ninju... how do u knw what it feels like?
and by the by will someone pleej pleeh tell me if im wrong or right?
hmm... its ur own choice whether to chose the besht buddy or the lower...i 'd go for the buddy
and ill tell u what i mean or how it happened to me later!!
correction: love does hurt... when people forget that love isn't abt expecting but about giving... if someone doesn't love you, let him/her go...that doesn't mean u have to stop lovvving... when u have to stop loving u will.
btw i think what u did was right... and in every single relationship one person gives a little more ...thats why its called a relationship!!
its nice of you to wait.. WHICH is what my dear friend did too... and it will take him time to grasp the fact that he doesn't really love her... but he's hurting too many ppl with his behavior..
...well neway! im not giving up any time soon.. he needs a friend and im going to be a friend...
hope u find ur love sooooon!!
ur friend has made a sensible decision for once.
no he hasnt
when people say "love's about giving not expecting"
it sounds fake. if you do love the person, giving needn't be asked for at all. it will be a pleasure to give, believe me, you will want to turn your lover into the most perfect person in the world, make him/her happiest, so you'll just keep giving, and in most cases you reap rich dividends, there's no question of expecting, but i suppose i'm talking on a diff wavelength
im nt disagreeing... i agree i agree. i knw it sounds crude.... it is the most natural thing in the world to give.... u won't even realise it...
MY question is if what i've done is wrong or right. What my best friend's doing is wrong or right.
My two cents, for what they're worth...you did the right thing, I'd say, but a person who acts like that may not turn out to be a good friend at the end of it all. Good to see you finally updated, btw ;-)
thank you... your "two cents" are worth a million dollars... i dnt think i really blame him... firstly he's a guy (ahem) and secondly love does crazy things to people...!!
im glad someone's glad i updated.. usually i hear a chorus of groans
:D
Still incoherent.
Who is "you". Please don't ask rhetorical questions and clarify whether you are him or he is you or you are you or I am you or what the nonsense is going on.
Rubens Barrichello
hey anonymous,
I hope your having a good day too... Anyway, i've just changed the post for you. I'm still asking the questions... 'cuz im looking for answers..
'will be glad of your help!
Lol...and just what's wrong with guys, hmmm?
for one... u can be real dumb at times
;)
Preetika,
Just a comment. You're an awesome person judging from your decision you've made. And if I were that Nick fellow, I would rather fall in love with you than Tina. Hmmm...but you would have to like me too right ? LOL
Oy! I resent that!
what do u resent??
I just recently(yesterday) broke up with my fiance. I have been in love with her for the past 3 years. As of last week I didn't know anything was wrong. Then she calls me up and tells me that its over and she wants nothing to do with me. Odd. I think that what you did was the only thing you could of done, and not knowing his side of the story, I can't say that what he did was wrong, but if he is anything like I am then he is going through a dip in self esteem. The best thing to do now is to just let him cool off, tell him that you want his friendship and if he needs to talk, you'll be there. Otherwise He'll think your pestering him.
Thats just what I think, I more then likely am wrong but at least I tried to help.
ur nt wrong. ur absolutely correct... and that is what i DID do... i knw what ur going thru and i knw what he's gone thru too, which is why i jst decided to stick around...
..it jst hurt.. which is why i wrote th post.. he's apologised..and we're GOOD now..
I dnt think u shud give up so easily... maybe ur not seeing something...
..thanx for visiting!