I cannot lie. I mean, yes of course I can if I really wanted to. But then, I just don't. Why? Because I really do believe, after seeing people, that one day, you'll get caught. And then you'll be in tripple trouble.
I also have a very sharp conscience. I guess it's just something I picked up along the way. From looking at people.
My ma always told me the easiest way to find out if what you're doing is right or wrong is this: If you're hiding and doing something, it's wrong. Simple as that. To a person like me, who can't decide what her favorite color is, this is a lifeline.
I don't blindly follow it. I really do believe it.
Lying complicates life. I like it simple. I mean seriously... ain't there enough complications without you adding to them?
Why this topic came up?
Boyfriends. Is it worth it to lie to your parents just to go out with a guy?
"There's a very simple and short answer to that",says my friend. Logic: I mean I'd rather not lie. But then, what's the point? If I do tell them, they will never be OK with it. I mean there's this whole generation gap. So, why hurt them and ME? This way neither of us gets hurt. And I can go out with the guy I love.
I just want to know if you think it's worth it?
Worth it to waste time and energy and cash to spend time with a guy, who is 90% going to dump you along the way. And it's not even the fact that he MIGHT dump you...it's the fact that you'd lie to your parents for this guy?
Is he that important? Do you really believe what you're doing is right? Do you really believe it's worth losing your parents trust?
In at least 7/10 cases they guy ends up either blackmailing you or talking shit about you to his friends. To your friends.
In 9/10 cases the girl ends up hating herself for giving up so much of herself, emotionally and physically, to this guy.
Is it worth it?? Is it really?
They might seem like real kiddish questions to some. I mean I see my friends, very cooly "omitting" certain details, getting cash out on vague pretences... it's small stuff. But at the end of the day it's a lie.
I find people in 8th standard "going out" and doing all hanky panky stuff. 8th standard???!!! It's become a fashion trend now.. the whole lying to your parents. Going out with a guy...
I really do want to know... how do you manage to look at yourself in the mirror, every morning? Don't you feel guilt. Or does the whole "generation gap" excuse seem reason enough to not be ashamed of yourself?
What's on your mind??
now you really are freaking me out with your posts and the similarities.
the point that your friend makes is pretty correct...agreed that you're gonna get your heart broken and spirits dampened after going out with someone...but then staying indoors isn't gonna make you find the person you wish to be with, will it?
true lying is bad and i'd ask everyone not to as well...but then like i said in my post...sometimes the truth doesn't get you in a better position.
quite frankly, depends on the guy...you have to decide if he's worth it...if you're serious about him, do not compromise on what could be a lifetime of happiness for a few years of difficulty, I guess...But this is just my opinion...
I don't get what the point is in going out with a guy who you think is 70% going to dump you.
And everyone lies. People who are too truthful are hated by society. You have to lie just to be polite.
Kaushik
i completley agree with koze on this one... YoU HAVE TO LIE... its a code of life.. its like a must..its kinda weird NOT lying... not only to be polite but to save your own skin in certain postions..
i always speak the truth..REALLY
umm Kaushik.. there's WHITE lies.. they really don't matter. I'm talking about lying to your parents. And I'm nt saying go out with a guy who is going to dump you, I'm jst saying these days people go out 'cuz its FASHINABLE. They change guys/girls respectively, like they change their clothes.
Also, I'm not saying don't go out with a guy or anything. Im asking you if lying is the right way to go. I mean if your parents are against it, there's got to be some reason behind it.
I'm asking you if you should stop and think about it before you lie. Is it enough to blame "generation gap" ??
All I want to know is how you can just lie without a second thought.
And navneet, agreed it might not be your first choice in some cases, but along the way, one ALWAYS comes to the realisation that telling the truth IS the bestest of ways.
Anyway, thanks for visiting guys!
hey
i think all these people going out have let their hormones take charge of their BRAINS.i think its quite natural to like this guy/girl . Following fashion is not the point. Most people who go out lie to their parents....but the question is Are they respecting realtionships?????
its like this......
When u r friends with a guy/ girl u can talk about all the crap on earth from sex to any damn thing.
And u can argue , fight , pull eachothers collers and roll on the ground with laughter too.
But when you like a person more than friend .. its always that you want to show-off to the other person trying to impress him or her ...with loooks ( i know girls who sit in the parlours undergoing sooooo much pain in order to look good 4 their bf's Damn.).And when a fight crops up??? Its difficult to get back. i mean ur ego's come in front and the relation breaks off.Later when u see the person u feel soo awkward , disgusted and stuff. U either regret the whole thing or hate the person for the rest of your life. Is it better to live in harmony as friends and have no regrets on your death bed or follow fashion???
Finally (All women please think about this)
maddona said :(Very interesting)
All good men are either married or gay.
@bangaloreguy: i'm chilled. stop treating me like a kid who has just thrown up a tantrum.
im just asking, why and how.
@priya: lol.. that's putting the hole "going out" in a nutshell.
Thanks for visiting guys!
hey banglorian,
the point i am making is not about lying to your parents. Its about valuing relationships, and carrying them through life. In most cases when ppl break up or part as friends *( do many more things friends usually dont do)they never meet the person ever again or fret and fume about wat's happened.
So why get into commitments and ruin relationships ???? Then regret the whole incident?
(These are my opinions and mine alone.)
@bangaloreguy: im sorry... got pissed. Thankus, for trying :)
@anjan: i agree totally.
thanks for visiting guys!
I told my parents, well, mom, because my dad doesn't really count - when I had my first relationship. Agreed, it ended on bad terms, but we're friends now.
And I really don't think its WRONG to go out with a guy, just to avoid lying. First and foremost, its the guy. I wouldn't let just any guy 'steal my heart' without him passing the acid test first. (read: being friends with me, that must be hard)
And second, its my life. So I know the choices will and should only affect me. So there.
Really, its not 70% of them that'll do that.
Relationships help you grow, they teach you. I've grown up so much already.
Relationships are good.
Of course, not the kind you're referring to and decry; but the kind I've seen around me, with me, and my friends.
@bangaloreguy: im eternally greatful.
@amelie: they sure as hell help you grow. all im saying is, why lie? If you think it's "your life" and you think you knw whats best for you and are ready to take a step fwd in this arena.. .then why hide and do it? is the lying and the breaking of trust and faith your parents have in you, worth it??
thanks for visitng!!
i didn't hide and do it.
Eugh. Hiding it would mean I was embarrassed about it. Embarrassed about something as wonderful as love?
Never moi.
good.
and that was what i meant.
do it, just dnt hide it and do it. If u want to hide it and do it, it's wrong or ur embarassed. Which is sick.
lotsaluv!