Can you use those words and mean them? I, for one, can't. I absolutely hate saying no. It's one the few things in life, I can actually hate.
I hate saying no when people ask me for something I can give. Problem is at times its something I'd love to give, but can't and at times it's something I don't want to give, but it's what the other person wants. Needs.
How do you say no without sounding rude and horrible? And mean. And like you really don't not care?
How do you explain that by saying No, you don't mean you don't want to give? But you can't give? How do you explain that in some cases its vice versa.
How do I expect someone to believe that I'm not just making excuses.. but I really can't..?
see, that's because you're nice
hey preethika
just came about ur blog by accident
remember mee priya .....bvm .....
nice to see this ..............do keep me posted .........
:)
maybe you should not think so much!!
give if you can, if you cant, i seriously belive you do not have to give explainations.
you know you would if you could (whatever that english is!!) so take it a little easy!
@amelie: uuuggggggggghhhh!!
@priya: OFCOURSE i do!!
@aytida: easier said than done. ESPESCIALLY if u think as much as i do :)
@born stinger: Na.. im not contradicting myself. When I'm talking about NOT GIVING SOMETHING I WANT TO GIVE BUT CAN'T, its when there's a choice between doing something for my parents and doing something for someone else who loves me. If i wanted to live my life my way, i'd be hurting my parents, which i can't and won't do under any circumstance. At least not now. u think that's not living my life??
lol... wants and needs. I suck. :) I don't really knw what i said then, and i don't really knw what im saying now..!!
And yes, you are correct abt the stats. Problem is here I have to say no to one person i love because of another person i love. lol. totally crazy stuff.
Thanks for taking the time to tell me what you think guys!
Lotsaluv.
seems like the similarities just got bigger...
i know how it feels to be unable to say no to someone...makes you feel really helpless right?
...the best one can do is make the other understand the reason for being unable to help, that way the conscience stays clear as well....hope you have better luck at it.
@navneet: you too??!!
guess they were right about misery seeking misery.
:)
well you didn't have bon jovi sing..."misery loves company" for absolutely nothing....
i guess STINGER hasn't got it...coz this isn't about fulfilling expectations..its about a genuine urge to help anyone without a clause (am i right?)
its both.
the ratio just varies with situations.
:)
Oh, stop being so preachy.
Kaushik
@dhruva: lol
@koze: what? im asking. not preachig.