"To be successful, live life according to a plan".. "to feel satisfied live life according to a plan"...

I cannot believe, people actually believe in all this, and actually follow such stuff. Why do I think this way? lemme see...

Ok, take the Backstreet Boys. When I was 10-11 years old, I used to love their music. They were the most popular band at one time... Say, at that time suppose I had made a plan to listen to their music everyday till I was 20 years old... If I had done such a thing.. then there were two situations that were possible : If I was a person who thought a plan was planned to be followed, then, even today I'd be listening to "Backstreet Boys" and whatever. On the other hand, if I was to be a person who believed that plans were just planned for the sake of it.. then I wouldn't be here writing this, and you wouldn't be here reading this.

Now, if I was to be the person who believed a plan is planned to be followed there are two situations that can arise: Either I'm the only thing on earth that doesn't evolve or I can evolve and change everyday, every minute, the way people are meant to change. Again 2 situations evolve:

If I were to be the first person, then no problem-o, I'll be happy and satisfied till the day I die listening to "Backstreet's back... allright", let alone till 20 only. On the other hand, if I were to be a human being, then with every day, my taste in music would change. And say, about an year later, if I liked Westlife better, I'd still have to listen to Backstreet Boys, because that was the plan.

This would lead to two things : Either I could show a little smartness and change the plan, or I could be dumb and follow it to the last letter. From here, there are again 2 situations that could arise: If I was to follow the first course of action, I'll be happy singing Westlife songs when I wanted to sing Westlife songs... but then, that would mean I was not following the plan. And if I were to stick to the plan and keep singing Backstreet's Back till I were to turn 20, I'd be unhappy and bored.

This could lead to two things: If according to the larger plan(the plan whose planner is God) I was to die when I was 13, I'd die listening to Backstreet and not Westlife.. hence, I'd die unhappy. On the other hand, if I followed the first course of action, I'd die happy...

If you find yourself in the second situation, then I'm contradicting my assumption that I think plans are planned to be followed, which proves that I believe plans are palnned to not be followed. But then again, it means that I shouldn't be writing this at all and you wouldn't be getting ready to pull your hair..... So, this is all a load of crap.

Plans are meant to be followed. But when it comes to life, no amount of planning can make you happy or satisfied. It's like a person making a speech. Those who plan each statement and each paragraph can never be good speakers. A speaker has to gauge the audience reaction and accordingly make his next statement effective enough to hold them captive. If the speaker were to just go on and on and on without realising that his audience was either snoring or yawning, his purpose wouldn' t be served.

It's the same way with you and your life. You change everyday, and so do I. So, we have to keep changing our way of doing things, the things that we are doing itself, according to the way our thinking changes.

Don't waste your life in planning what you want to do. A rough sketch showing you what you want to achieve that day, is all you need to help make you happy. Because a rough sketch can be edited while a plan plan, cannot.

Disclaimer: The author has assumed that she is a human being with a mind. So, please people, do not think your statements stating otherwise hold no value.

I'm grateful for:


..music, emails from old friends, stupid messages sent to make you smile, the "you too" in reply to my "good morning, have yourself a lovely day!", old shirts, PJ's, friends: even though their only aim in life seems to be making mine worse,my big brothers, my best friend who is every ready to fight back when i'm in the mood for it... plenty of chocolate, 'bus stand cutie' who keeps us busy with his antics in college, to those who "understood" instead of "looked", infinite patience, my sis(read:pest) for loving parents, the rain, for a chance to get drenched in the rain, those who bear with my singing and actually chime in at times ;), good feelings, the stars in the night sky, meetings,love...AND AND... all those ayyahbuggers who keep visiting my blog!!! Thank you... shukriya..

..I could go on.. and on and on.. but i'll spare you :D

So, what are you grateful for today?

The other day I was flipping through channels, and came across a special story on NDTV. I know I know, the bloddy channel keeps making me write and you are forced to read ;) what say u ? sue them?!!

Anyway, the special was about celebrations world over to celebrate the 135th birth anniversary of the father of this nation. Mahatma Gandhi. The ol' man had his faults.. but his path of ahimsa,i.e., non-violence, still comands respect among people, around the world. Amongst the various peace marches by students, all over Gujarat, there was one school that did something special.

Each child was asked to write a letter to another child in Pakistan. These letters were to be carried across the border, by two Americans.... I don't know when the englishmen turned smart, but all I could think of was " Well I'll be damned! It's finally happening!!"

That was when the reality of these peace talks between the PM's of both the nations, actually sank in. Something was finally happening. It's high time that we stopped JUST talking and DID something! It's high (another high) time these religion fanatics and leaders stopped making this "war" a publicity stunt. It's high ( another another high) time we stopped fighting over which side of the line is yours and which side is mine. It's high ( this time, I'm on top of Mt. Everest) we stopped finding ourselves...
"... at the head of lines we should not lead
or behind lines we never should have crossed."

Land is land. It's as much yours as it is mine.There's no "this rightfully belongs to me".... what our leaders did THEN, they did. Why fight over it now? Borders, are just lines, that are drawn on a map, so that there's more to doodle in geography class...

When children, at the age of 12, realise that there is no difference between another child of the same age, 'just because he/she lives in a different country... why can't the people who run these coutries realise the same? Why do people 4 times this age, go around bombing cities in the name of religion? How does it make a difference if I say "mubarak ho" or "congratulations" or "badhaiyan"??? They all mean the same thing. If I want to call God, Christ, I will. If another wants to call him Allah or Ram or whoever, he will.... how does that make him a lesser man???

.....questions. Questions. Questions. The only answer to them lies within ourselves. Greed. Power. Pah!! The idiots!!! We should stop trying to put ourselves above others and others below us. There ARE no higher men and there exit no lower men... there ARE smarter men and foolish men. To date, the foolish have caused death while the so called smart have played .... Finally!! The smart are acting smart and doing something...the smaller they are the smarter they are acting!

:D

Suppose I were to give you one wish... which of these cars would you ask for?

(P.S: This genie gives guarantees for nothing....!! :D)

help me here people...

(umm... the first line is a question... the second is a thought or a situation... there's Nick-my best friend, one Tina-his love who hates for some reason and me-Me is ME...!!!)

What do you do with a best friend(Nick) who has been in love with a person(Tina) for 4 years, other than to tell him to go for it?

So, what if she's the reason why you distrusted me(me!!) once?

What do you do when Tina says she can't go out with Nick because she cannot trust Nick and me together, other than tell Nick you'll get out of the way?

Damn! Nick deserves a chance with Tina doesn't he? Friends come and go... yeah girls come and go too, but what kind of a person would I be if because of me he lost a chance with a girl who he's loved for 4 years and more just because of me?

What do you do when Tina makes your best friend,Nick, wag his tail to her every command, other than to tell him to open his eyes?

Nick knows what Tina's doing... Tina just wants to increase the count of guys that pay attention to her. Nick knows it.

What do you do when Nick takes out all his anger with Tina on you and calls you the lowest of things, and says "Who are you to say anything,huh?... look who you fell in love with... see how happy he is with his new girl friend "...other than listen?

Nick knows he's just saying things and that they don't mean a thing. Nick knows he's being played at by Tina.

What do you say to Nick when he decides to STOP feeling for Tina, no matter what... other than, "Look mister, you can't decide what to feel and when to feel and who to feel it for... So, stop fooling yourself and just go with the flow."

Nick's tried a million times to make himself not to feel, but he won't admit that it doesn't work.

What do you do when Nick starts thinking that no one takes him seriously and that no one respects him (taking hints from the way Tina's been treating him)other than, kick him on his shins and tell him that a person has to respect himself before he/she can expect others to respect him back... that if you think no one's listening to you, make an effort to listen to them and then try making them see what you have to say...

Nick fights with his dad at home over petty things and then justifies them with " He doesn't respect me. I will no be treated like shit." And he shuts up when I tell him that the only person who treats him like shit is TINA.

What do you do when Nick decides "Enough is enough. I'm not going to care. I don't believe in love anymore. It jst doesn't exit. Im going to change myself."

...other than tell him... "Look idiot. Just because SHE (Tina) doesn't care for you or doesn't love you back, doesn't mean no one else does. It doesn't mean you change into a cold hearted dog."

Nick only nods his head. He's made up his mind. No one's going to play around with him. He doesn't care about anyone anymmore. Love is crap. It doesn't exist.

What do you do when he sends you a msg that reads " Thank you for trying to stop me. I dint knw you cared this much. But you are just one person, you're not the world."

He doesn't want to do it... but he will because he thinks he's not good enough.

What do you do when Nick says "Stop messaging me. You are worse than HER. I don't need you anymore. Msg me only when you've stopped cribbing." or "Aha! So you are using whatever i've said to you to attract other people's attention, glad to be of service. Btw no one will listen to you because they don't give a damn about what you have to say."

I dint know what to say... so, I just told him.... that try as he may, I am not TINA, and don't ever want to be. "I am me. You don't need me, fine. SAY whatever you want to to hurt me. Do whatever you want. And when you get tired....I'm still going to be here..."